Yes, There is Peace Somewhere

 

 

Let it be said that I am a perennial student, always learning and willing to learn. My teachers come from strange places in terms of their own existence and I love the weirdness of it all.

 

Today I found peace. Imagine that, in today’s turmoil of uncertainty, I found peace – unequivocally, without doubt. I found it in Peace Valley Park: how appropriate. This glorious area of Bucks County has long been of solace to me. When life has presented challenges to which there seemed to be no sense whatsoever, a quick sojourn in Peace Valley Park created calm and clarity.

 

Over the years, we have visited with children, then grandchildren, to walk, to run, to splash in the summer water. Today, years later, we sit in the car and watch. We both recall driving to the shore and wondering why people sat in their cars to look at the ocean, rather than getting out for a stroll. Now we know! Today was extra specially resonant. . For some reason everything I love and admire was present. People with their dogs. A young man with two dogs both of whom obviously adored him enough to be without a leash came running up the hill toward the truck, jumping around him. He played and teased with them, they loving it. Yes, there is hope. Into the cabin of his truck they leapt, kissing him, tussling – it was joyful to behold. I am sure he hadn’t a clue he was under observation and I would like to thank him for the pleasure we received from the three of them. I read that the only true unconditional love is that of a dog to its owner. (We have a rescued cats – they don’t do ‘ownership’).

 

A smashing bright red truck then arrived with a quite large man and a tiny little Yorkie. Another love story. This dog was smaller than our Bella who weighed about six and a half pounds up to her death in January 2008. When they walked, its tiny legs went a mile a minute to keep up. Needless to say on their return, it was snuggling held in the loving arms of this man. Looked very cosy. It is joyful to behold that magnificent spiritual connection between human and animal. In addition to all this serenity, there was music which reached into the human condition with an emotional salve.

 

 

We took a picnic lunch and sat in the car for hours, far longer than usual for good reason. The awesome sight of Canada Geese. This is not a treatise on how many species, what a nuisance they can be, scientific studies but simply an essay of sorts on why a perfectly intelligent woman becomes a road hazard if a flow of these lovelies take off within her sight range.  They are my teachers. There were a few floating in the water when we arrived and then slowly the numbers increased. I do not know enough about these incredible birds except I wish people with their abilities and ethics ran the country! What I do know is they have a meeting place and wait until all are present. A formation arises following the established leader. When that leader is tired, automatically the next in line takes over – no election, no stoppage of services, no running out of funds, no establishing a task force, a new committee, another department – just does it. If one is ill or cannot keep up with the flock, two birds stay until either it has recovered or dies. No bird is ever left alone to suffer. No health insurance, not refusal of payment, no choosing between food and  treatment…. “you have a friend indeed”. There is so much I want to know other than fundamentals. What is their schedule? How do they decide where to convene, where to fly, who takes charge? I admire naturalists such as Attenborough and the National Geographic Professionals who wait hours, days, months for something to happen in nature’s movements.  As it is, we sit here for a short while and wait for the flight to begin. We aren’t in a hurry to get anywhere but the human condition dictates there must be somewhere we have to be, something we have to do. We stayed a long time – they didn’t move. The bright weather just keeps them there, contemplating I know not what. These creatures are simply breathtaking:

 

LIFE IS NOT MEASURED BY THE NUMBER OF BREATHS WE TAKE,

BUT BY THE MOMENTS THAT TAKE OUR BREATH AWAY.

 

I don’t know who wrote that – I got it from George Carlin. I think of these amazing creatures as they soar – what must it feel like to fly? Am I Icarus? The line from a song in the musical The Phantom of the Opera:

 

LET YOUR SOUL TAKE YOU WHEN YOU WANT TO BE.

 

So many messages of love, hope, peace, joy and achievement. The glory of powerful wings into the upper reaches of the earth’s atmosphere.

 

BE WHO YOU ARE             

AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL

BECAUSE THOSE THAT MATTER DON’T MIND

AND THOSE THAT MIND, DON’T MATTER.

 Dr. Seuss

 

Dr. Yvonne Kaye

www.yvonnekaye.com

 

 

 

Simple is the answer!

The entire blog is titled Keeping it Simple – a mere lifetime of trying to do so! Having been addicted to difficult for so many years, I can now add obstinate and frustrating to those who can see such potential in me. To add to the mix, I am an ideas person who just needs an army to carry out the necessary plans. Trouble is, I don’t follow through. This blog is to prove I can. Whew!

Keeping in simple means stop making mountains out of molehills. Yes – that’s it. I know from working with women for so many years, it’s part of our imprints. Of course I generalise but I have to start somewhere. There are many examples of male/female ‘discussions’. Mine would go like so……..the male of the species would talk about what just happened. I would enter the debate and say….by the way, in 1988 you said such and such! How can a person deal with that? Am I being sexist – ask honest women: HONEST WOMEN. They’ll tell you. The very best example of keeping it simple is the Serenity Prayer. To encapsulate this brilliant piece of prose is thus: If you can do something about it, do it, if you can’t, let it go. Easy to say. John – you’ll hear a lot about him- can do that. I just say it, then think about the situation, trying to find other ways until I am exhausted. He is fine, thank you very much.

Keeping it simple. Current phrases like GET OVER YOURSELF helps. Living one day at a time, is another. In some circumstances one minute at a time is just about all one can manage. Let me tell you about one of my passions – my work with bereavement. Mourners have to learn to live with the seesaw of emotions. Smiling one minute, broken- hearted the next. Understanding there is no such thing as total happiness, that it is ephemeral, allows them to maintain their sanity. Keeping it simple. One minute. Up and down – roller coaster.

Add to mourners, the worriers. What can anyone achieve through worry? An ulcer perhaps. Again, being concerned is different from worrying. Not just semantics either. Worrying means one is trying to change the unchangeable. Concern is looking at what can be done and truly accepting if there is no solution. Is this easy? Absolutely not. In the way we were trained to worry and look at life’s difficulties, we have to untrain our brains and souls to deal with reality.

Shakespeare said ‘This above all to thine own self be true”. We were also conditioned to believe that encouraging our own skills and talents, being healthy and liking who we are, is selfish. SELF-ISH. Ish means of, so the whole work simply (doncha just love it) merely means of the self.

In the coming weeks, I will be writing about Women in Focus, Using Humour as a Healing Process, Eccentricity and Outrageousness – all fun stuff. Hope to hear from you